Step Fathers
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- Published on Sunday, 11 September 2011 04:56
- Written by Rose Kenebrew
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STEPFATHERS
You will need God’s help to be a godly stepfather leading your wife and stepchildren by example; showing yourself as an obedient child of God to your Heavenly Father. Your children must see in you a man who is following God in every area of your life.
Get to know your future stepchildren before you marry their mother. Just as you are learning about your future wife before you marry her you need to be diligent in getting to know her children who will become your children also. You are to be responsible for the well being of those children spiritually as well as naturally. Ask God to help you to love them. Did I hear you say the children are bad and difficult to love? Here is where you need to start with the victory or you will not be successful later on. Ask God to give you His love for them. Discipline is easier and received better when it is applied with love. If you can’t love the children you don’t need to marry their mother. Did I hear you say you want the mother? Ok, you have to want the children too.
Just as you make dates to go out with your future wife, set aside time to get together with the children. As you get to know them you will learn more about their needs. Pray for them, ask God to show you how to help them. These children along with your wife are going to be your little flock; God is placing you in a position to nourish and lead them in the ways of the Lord.
The children cannot be considered just a tag-along with your wife and you thinking that in order to get the wife you have to reluctantly take the children too. That is a wrong attitude. Just as you are laboring to win the love and respect of your wife you must do the same for her children. They must know that they are important to you and you are there to love, protect, provide for and lead them as well as their mother.
Maybe you are already married and you have not allowed God to give you His perspective on being a stepfather and you have failed in some way to be an example to your wife and children. God is a God of new beginnings. Repent to your wife and children and start anew. Ask God for wisdom, “If any man lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him”. James 1:5
You have been given a great responsibility as a stepfather but you have an awesome God and you are more than a conqueror through Him.
About 27% of white children do not live with their biological father, 35% Hispanic children and 66% of Black children do not live with their biological father.
Children are devastated by the lack of a father in the home. You have a marvelous opportunity to change the world of your stepchildren and lead them to Christ.
Rose Kenebrew